Miss Sentimental

Now, im pretty much in a very sentimental, and thoughtful mode.sometimes, i dislike being sentimental and thoughtful because the next minutes, i would have a very negative state of mind. Negativity is not something fun.it dragged your confidence down.More so, suddenly you will feel terribly alone and neglected-and it's very hard to get out from that. Movies get me thinking and trains of thought will bring back things that you shouldnt and supposedly should be left aside.But some movies are good source for thinking.And furthermore, it's in the way you see it. So im sentimental and thoughtful, but nevertheless ok.

I was reading LM Montgomery's Emily's Quest for the first time. i have always been a fan of her other Chronicles-but never really read Emily.It was a novel about a dreamy girl, with a flare for writing.the story was written in third person, as well as in diary-like notes.It was very thought stimulating. Hence is my sentimental state. Basically, the story was about Emily and her dream to be a writer.But given the fact that she lived in the new world of America, where women with ambition and quest for better life were regarded as weird-she was always faced with dissapointment. The one person whom she was supposed to marry, didnt believe that a woman has any other role other than that of being a wife. For Dean, women should use their beauty-to quote him-delicate hands, beautiful face and-i cant really remember his exact phrase about the lips-for something better-a woman is more useful at home, tending to her husband and children. So Emily was dissapointed.I am even more so. Dean was portrayed as a good looking guy, with manly presence, well travelled, and well educated-but it seemed that he was not that tolerant of the idea that women should have her own life other than being a wifey.i was relief that Emily didnt marry him, and was dissapointed because men are typically the same.The only thing that makes them different is the variation.they are variedly typical.

i watched quite a number of James Bond's Movies. i have actually been a fan of James Bond because of Pierce Brosnan. I think he becomes the role so much. Basically i have watched all of the Bond movies since then. I dont really like Danial Craig though. He was by far the most emotional Bond-which lessen his quality in my eyes. Why i loved the persona? Simply for the fact that, he is independent, dependable, decisive, weak and charming-i never once saw a James Bond movies where he came out without bruises,hurt or injury. Yes, i like the fact that he never try to imply that he is a perfect being, emotionless, and always impatient to turn his opponent into a deadmeat. I like his calm and assured style-he knows it and that's enough.Confidence.Oh yeah, i wont comment anything for the girls that go straight into his arm-i can resist his charm either.;o)..and anyway, which girls would?
But back to my theory of variation of typical men, James Bond is one variation of this typical nature.He likes smart courageous girls with brain and beauty, and it obvious that he much more prefer them in bed.There you go-delicate hands, beautiful face and bla bla bla lips..Much more useful in that way. So no matter how a man described himself, in the end it is all that matter-a woman's place is at home tending to husband and children..or husband.Guys by nature love submissiveness, so dont go around the bush and said you are complicated because sooner or later you proved it yourself that you are a variation if not the typical-typical type of men.

I am not a hardcore feminist-but i do care about how men perceived women. Some things have been ordered by divine law-but some are purely human invention. Most men do not have ideas how much their perception hurt women at times. I once believed that a woman's role is as what i have seen going on around me.But i knew about the bigger picture, there are so much more than just being satisfied sitting at home tending to household chores and being treated like a second class.There is more to it than just getting a husband. There is so much more needed to be taken care of. I am terribly let down that everytime i read magazines or newspaper, women were left uncared for-being the subject of injustice-battered, humiliated, and left with not an ounce of self belief-and without options.But they allowed it to happen to them because they believed that's the way things should be. A man is always a leader, a husband and the wife losts all her rights to this man who dont know /dont care about being responsible for a thing. It hurtful to see that, but it even more hurtful to know that these women allowed that to happen to them, and believed they should endured. This isnt about superiority, this is about being nice to all your fellow beings.And this is not to imply that, women should go on a riot, banned and killed men, or worst put them in a kitchen where we can shout at them. It is just that we dont need bullshit.We deserve to be treated with all due respect.

The Prophet s.a.w has shown exemplary behaviour in this. He was even quoted to say that: The best men among you are those who treat his wife with great respect:
So do not simply believe that it is a divine order that a woman's place is lower than man. Because in the Quran, it is stated that, men is physically stronger than women, therefore,it is his duty to protect women. That is the word of God. Isnt it good enough justification?