the superficial value

Discussion,discussion.
This morning, on the way to the office i discussed something with my friend.

There is this one guy.a very friendly person.the first time i saw him i thought that he is friendly, and very easy going sort of person.He is nice, with all the smiley appearance and a quite important person in our institution as well. the second time i met him,he was accompanying his wife to one of the night class. it so happened that, i was the one holding the office key.and he needed to get in to take the projector for his wife's class. so we chatted and still i feel that he is a very decent, nice and friendly guy. and i was thinking that his wife is lucky to have him.By the way, he waited until the class ended with his wife.so protective and husbandly..

But sometimes before our second meeting, i heard a story about him.Before he marry his current wife, he had this one girlfriend.the wife is his girlfriend's friend.and he ended up marrying the girlfriend's friend because of language issue.It happened that his girlfriend do not speak the language spoken by his family.and his current wife does.
to discard/reject someone just because of something that can be learn such as language...why?
i can only think that probably he dont want to disappoint anybody, and he wants to get an approval from the entire family, and is it worth it?

when i started befriending my bestmate-or rather when we started getting closer, everytime he mentioned about somebody else looking at us,or when he cares so much of what everybody thinks, deep down in my heart, i feel that he has this reservation about actually and really being my friend. When he mentioned that, i feel that he probably much more prefer to have a friend that is more like him...that he dont see me as his friend at all, but just somebody to fill in some empty slots.

and yes.to think again, our life are tied to all the values we inherited from people in our life.and if it can make you feel better about everything, then you should just stick to it.