how to...

yesterday,went to my friend house during the break.and in 2-hour time, her husband called her more than three times.i didnt actually count it.but i got a strong feeling that it was more than three times..he even requested to speak to me once-to make sure that i was really there. i feel really weird at that time but my friend said that i shouldnt feel weird about it because her husband is that kind of person..worried all the time about her..err..but still..my mind was racing for a more justifiable answer.and the answers in my cynical mind:

a)he was acting like "a jealous spouse"-and afraid that the other half is doing something not so nice..and im thinking of word like "space" and "trust"?

b)my friend said that her husband is an extremely caring person.and by extreme it means REALLY REALLY EXTREME...and again the word in my head..COME ON!!Enough already

there's nothing wrong with that i guess..but the way it was done as if u are trying so hard to show to your other half and probably other people(HUH)that you care..that's what's wrong..because it didnt seem natural.macam benda yang sengaja buat tapi buat-buat..if u can get what i mean..
i can be right or wrong.somehow,it feel oddly out of place..hmm

later on, she was talking about this one guy..whom she think is just the right person for me..(because he has the same attitude with her husband).mentioning all his good quality, his kindness, his skills and his quality as a very capable man.that i wont deny.i can see that too.seriously, that the reason why he scared me..because of all that good quality.just think of his standard and expectation.
although i admire this guy, still it's not for anyone to say who is the right person for him.it's for him to decide!and for god sake..i like someone such as him..but i dont want to be push around anyone like that.and my main aim was never to be happily married..which everybody around me..except for my housemate, cik anggun- is doing.

and the question that buzz in my head is-how to know what kind of person he really is?will he still be same sweet natured-god gift from heaven-guy-when you really is in a relationship with him?how to know that?

a conversation with a bunch of my friends during volleyball practice several years back-at school-keeps ringing in my head. my friend said that, there is no telling what kind of person we will end up with.sometimes-there are people who were real good when we just met them, but change into a monster once u settle down with them..and some were real headache when u first know them, but were actually a real catch when u settle down with them..and my friend said to not believe the appearance-because it usually deceives.;o(

and i testify to that.