he is just not that into you

i read the book.it was loaded with the dos and donts of relationship.
first, i was excited to finish it.but halfway through, i begin to get bored.it doesnt excite me all that much anymore.
relationship should be learn through trial and error.there's no wrong or right.it's right when it's right and wrong when you think that it's wrong.
Human nature is not something fix.it changes over time.the best way is to try and learn, unlearn and re-learn again.there is not a signpost that you can say something for sure.
but some part of it is a real insight. like the usual excuses the guys always use to avoid being in a relationship with one person.But knowing that, i become more of a sceptic.judging everything i actually see in daily life.
and one part of the book discuss about how does a shitty relationship looks like.which i guess common occurence.sometime we want to be in a relationship so much that we ignore what is staring us in the eyes.we keep on giving excuses because we are not confident to let the relationship go.we keep on holding on because we think we ought to give it a chance.That's when it comes to unfulfilling relationship.you didnt get any satisfaction from it, and it makes you less productive in daily dwelling.Sometime, we want to be in a shitty relationship just to be in with the crowd.sometimes, because we're too self conscious of what other people will say, and we do not want to be in the limelight for all the wrong reason..i.e:being dumped for tons of reason imaginable.so, it's better to suffer than being the object of scrutiny.
That's why for me, being single is the best option.though im not saying that it's not ok to be in a relationship.but you must understand the terms and conditions first.you can not just be in one just because everybody is in it. you can not just simply assume that relationship is as easy as what you see in TV or read in a novel.When you do that, it means that you are hoping too much and will let yourself go through supossed hardship because you think it's normal to do that.
there are tons of dirty works to be done to make it work.and mind you, relationship is no soap opera.because its main core is emotion.and it can get real complicated.
that's why i rather not play the part.because i can stand the emotional mess.i've seen people going through a very bad one..it gets ugly everytime.
for me if a person couldnt be bother to treat you with all due respect, what's the point of pursuing it?is it normal thing to be in an abusive relationship?or in a relationship where you are the only one pulling all the strings?or you are the only one who is willing to sacrifice?
let's not be philosophical about it.let just be practical.the most important thing is, when the relationship gives you certain degrees of personal meaning, which you can relate, and it benefits everyone involves, then what the heck?just dive in head first.
but if not, then maybe he is just not that into you.which is just probably the best time to bid him adieu.